Sunday, August 26, 2007

life-infusing authors

I wanted to share a couple of authors that never cease to make me feel so alive (spiritually) when I read them:

I'm currently reading The Way of the Wild Heart by John Eldredge, which deals more directly the father-son relationship, and it's gotten me so excited to embrace the future of raising Mason (as opposed to the anxiety I usually feel). I'd recommend it to every father with a son.

Friday, August 24, 2007

parenting 101

I recently stumbled across these parenting suggestions in a magazine and thought they were worth sharing:

- Allow children of all ages time for free play. It's a natural way to learn regulation, social skills and cognitive skills.

- Be reasonable about what is dangerous and what is not. Some risk-taking is healthy.

- Don't overreact to every bad grade or negative encounter your child has. Sometimes discomfort is the appropriate response to a situation -- and a stimulus to self-improvement.

- Don't be too willing to slap a disease label on your child at the first sign of a problem; instead, spend some time helping your child learn how to deal with the problem.

- Peers are important, but young people also need to spend time socializing with adults in order to know how to be adults.

- Modify our expectations about child-raising in light of your child's temperament; the same actions don't work with everyone.

- Recognize that there are many paths to success. Allow your children latitude -- even to take a year off before starting college.

- Don't manipulate the academic system on behalf of your child; it makes kids guilty and doubtful of their own ability.

- Remember that the goal of child-rearing is to raise an independent adult. Encourage your children to think for themselves, to disagree (respectfully) with authority, even to incur the critical gaze of their peers.

Sunday, August 19, 2007

my new nephew

Introducing Elliot Elijah Kolomichuk!!! My first nephew was born to my only sister Shawna and her husband Keith on 8/15 in Tucson. He was 7 lbs, 4 oz, 18 1/2". Shawna and Elliot are healthy. More pictures can be seen at:

Tuesday, August 14, 2007


First myspace, then facebook, now this.....I just can't seem to help myself. Gotta join them all. I saw my sister-in-law Robin Elgard's blog, then stumbled over Mark Hostetler's (one of my co-workers) and was very impressed...inspired me to take the plunge.

Kari, Mason, and I have been in Denver for over a year now. We moved here from beloved Dubuque, Iowa in order to be closer to family and to attend Denver Seminary. I'm about to begin my second year in the counseling program and have loved it so far. Kari works a couple days as a dental assistant (while Mason rotates between Nana's and Auntie's houses during those days) and is working for our church in the Sunday School program. We attend Hillside Church ( and have grown very fond of our community there. Through the church we've been priviledged to be a part of a pre-teen ministry on Sunday nights called "the edge." I have been working as a subcontractor installing windows and doors for almost a year now. It's hard manual labor, but a nice contrast from the academic world that takes up a lot of my time.

We recently started looking for a house and are hoping to purchase one in Parker (SE Denver...close to church) by January. What a nervewracking (sp?) process that is going to be. Please pray for us if you get a chance!